Changes and adapting....

My lovely Welsh sister is visiting the girls and I this weekend - she should be here around tea time (provided she doesn't haveto stop at any police stations *winks at her).

The girls are really looking forward to it, not having seen her since we visited her in late spring when we were doing the gardening with her. I don't think they've gone so long between elle visits before!! It's also been three months since I've been with her, so a lot of catching up to do.

A lot has happened in those intervening months. Mike dissolving the family, elle's change in direction re switching, Mike and I parting D/s company but remaining friends, and my growing friendship with Dragon M Sir and lessa.

There is quite a lot of opportunity for miscommunication, misunderstandings, and a lot of awkward moments this weekend. But when all is said and done, elle and I are sisters regardless of who our Master is, so we will value the opportunity to talk and cuddle, as we've always done.

My friendship with lessa and Dragon M Sir has grown a hell of a lot. As you know I've just spent a week in Holland with them and RB, and this truly was a wonderful time. Spending so much time with them all left us all far closer. Two full days out with Dragon M Sir and two nights of play, plus evenings and mornings of chat and fun left a big impression on me. Important things like that are what elle and I have always talked about. But, how we'll feel if we talk about it now will be the acid test. Will she be ok hearing me talk about time with someone other than Mike? Equally, will I feel alright hearing her talk about future plans with Mike now that I'm no longer part of them?

As far as me hearing about Mike - I think I'll be fine - my future wasn't with Him - we wanted different things and this past few weeks since my release I've realised this more and more. He's a wonderful Dom - and I hope He will remain a good friend. He taught me a lot and helped me to develop, he also introduced me to many new things. Mike has played a big part in my life, and I'm glad that He did. It's just a shame that His taste in music included Amarillo ! *weg*

I played with a friend's Master once. I'd gone down to see them for a visit and it sort of developed into a small play session. But there was no feeling there, no emotion, so after about five minutes I called red. I couldn't take even a small amount of pain - I take pain partly because I enjoy it - partly as a submission. This wasn't submission. It was just play, and I can't really do that. My friend even commented on my inability to play saying,'pffft!! thought you were meant to be a painslut!!'. Laughs - she was still keen on meeting Mike for a play session though !! *grins at Him.

I submitted to Dragon M Sir last week, it wasn't just play. I took a hell of a lot of pain, and also had a session which wasn't pain based, but control based - His 'experiment' with lessa and I. Even on our day out at the safari park the control was there - it wasn't just in the playroom. A long friendship, countless hours with all three of us talking, and huge amounts of respect opened up this submission. I'm not going to dismiss it as 'just play' to make myself or anyone else think better of me - being recently released. I'm not using Him as a substitute or 'any port in a storm' and He knows that. I'm proud that I submitted to Him, and proud that I played with them both. And they both know how much I think of them.

I'm going out to France with them both on 3rd September, a holiday which was arranged long ago, because of the connection that we all felt. That will be something else that I will want to talk about with elle. She told me on one of our long chats a couple of weeks ago that she has no problem hearing about my play with Him now that I'm no longer Mike's girl. There's no 'conflict' now. So I hope this holds true *smiles. I love her far too much to want us not to be able to talk to each other about everything.

So here's to a girlie weekend with elle - laughing, cuddling, shopping and talking. Maybe even a visit to the local Monkey Forest, where the guides give talks on how the dominant males rule the submissive females *grins.

Huggs for everyone.

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