They call me Miss !!

As most of my friends know, I took a bus load of children from the school where I work to a theme park last week (should have taken the advice I was given and borrowed a crop !!)_ This morning I spoke to some of the students that went on the trip about other trips that we’re planning for the long summer holidays. They asked who the female member of staff on each trip would be, and I nominated the lovely lady PE teacher (I thought she would be a popular choice). The majority of the kids actually groaned and begged me to go instead.

The kids told me that I’m a ‘fun’ miss – despite not going on rides at the theme park. I talk to them as equals, but when I reprimand them, I’m not nasty about it. The main complaint that children at our school have is the way that staff talk to them, like second class citizens. Communication here leaves a lot to be desired. On the corridors at school, when I’m on duty I talk to the kids. If they say hello I answer and we actually have a conversation. And for a lot of these kids, that’s what they want. To be seen as normal people, capable of having a discussion. Don’t get me wrong, lots of the kids here are awful, I dread seeing them, but that’s a result of their background, not a choice on their part. So except for these children that none of the staff can control (not just me), students here see me as fun, ‘decent’; they respond if I reprimand and they know they can talk with me. When they leave at 3pm, they shout bye to me and wave (if I’m out of the underground office I’m hidden away in !! *grins).

This led me to drawing parallels with D/s. The teachers at this school on the whole act as they believe teachers should – strict disciplinarians, no communication beyond barked orders, as little contact as possible, showing no personality at all. I have seen so many Doms like that online. They act in a ‘Domly’ fashion. Insist on being addressed as ‘Sir’ or ‘Master’ (yes, that goes down really well with me – have I mentioned that I have a bit of a strong attitude towards that kind of thing?)), trying to get any submissive within yelling distance to submit to them just because they’re Dom. Both the teachers and these so called Doms demand respect for no other reason than ‘because of what they are’. Both need to learn that respect is earned. It’s taken me seven months to earn respect at this school, but I really have earned it, not just assumed it.

If a teacher treats a child as if they’re stupid, incapable of making decisions, useless and worthless, the child will more often than not live up to that ‘pre-determined’ role. If a Dom treats a sub in the same way, the sub will react similarly. They will believe that if the Dom/teacher thinks that’s all they’re capable of – they must be right.

The good Masters that I know – including my own beloved obviously *grins – encourage their girls to grow, to learn, to try new things. They encourage an enquiring mind, and actively seek opportunities to give their girls the chance to develop. More often than not, rather than tell a girl how to react to a situation, they ask ‘well, what would happen if you did this?’. They mentor as much as train, two entirely different methods as I see them.

Why would any Dom want a submissive that wasn't strong, independant and capable of thinking for herself?

So here I am – in a school, being called ‘Miss’ for 8 hours a day. Grins…. But I absolutely refuse to call the male teachers Sir !!!